Will you change? Will you be here when I need you? Is there an unknown hidden you?
Who are you? Why do I love you? Who will you be in twenty years?
But wait a second. You are yourself and I love you.
“Never love someone whom you think you need to mend – or who makes you feel like you should be mended” Caitlin Moran
Me, you, us and what you would like me and us to be…
Balance, limits. This is who I am and who I want to remain.
Feeling, sharing. This is who I think I should be to please you.
But Us is just the mix of you and me, an ongoing and flexible construction, not a predefined condition.
You do not break up a relationship.
The bound of love is unbreakable.
You never cut all ties, even silence between two former lovers is a link.
Memories might be socially constructed, they are emotionally bound.
Feeling loved but feeling lonely.
Feeling loved for someone you ought to be but not for who you are. Not knowing who you are anymore.
Feeling loved but feeling like a trophy.
Staying just because there is love. Any kind of love. Just to love and be loved, but who do you love if you love the relationship but not you in the relationship?
Anchored. We are. Together.
Anchored in my body and my memories. You will be. Always.
Anchored together forever. We will never know.
But this fear should not anchor us in dark words and moments.
Trust. What we all want.
But how do you define it?
Trust that someone does not lie?
That he/she will do what you expect him/her to do? It never happens.
Trust that you share common values?
That he/she is a better person than you? It is impossible.
There is clarity in opposition
A common divisive point
Don`t just oppose and hate
Oppose and learn
Is love a machine?
A beautiful relationship would require the skills to know when the lights need to be changed, or the cables fixed.
When it is time to slow down the machinery and enjoy.
The only problem is that even the most talented love mechanics can never anticipate when the power goes off.
Taking this step, following this path. Knowing where we are going. Not knowing what we are missing.
A relationship = active steps to reach a shared intimacy, a place in which the wellbeing of each and both is the priority.
Climbing stairs next to each other with the possibility of Uturns, stops and jumps. Eyes, minds and hearts open to learn along the way.
I knew he was looking when he would turn his eyes away.
Your soul said you should trust while your brain did not quite understand yet.
The visible was so different from the invisible he was letting me in